(girls) If this were you, how would you handle this please read....?

my fiancee is such a stubborn guy, lovely, nice, devoted...but stubborn like...wow. He had a DWI and crashed his car like 3 years ago. Since then, he got a job, lost a job (cause it was a disreputable work place) and he has gone to court, which bumped DOWN his color for drug testing to once a month, instead of twice. If cooperative, he goes on unsupervised probation march 31. Well, he lost his job. He wouldnt call his PO nor call to see if his color was up. Everytime I asked him to call to see he would say "damnit, I know sarah! quit hounding me, I will do it. Quit pushing me, I hate that " and he never does, the more I ask, the more pissed off he gets at me. I asked him to use my aunts phone and he was like "No, cause then they will never shut up" or he says" you know we can't afford it, its 100$ at the hospital to get a drug test". I try and get him off his to do something towards getting out of a rut and he just sits there and rather pretends it is not real..and when I tell him it wont go away he grits his teeth and scoffs going "ugh...I KNOW SARAH...shut up.." then he has this tendency to point the finger at me about being a messy person or something so I don't have a halo around my head in that argument. Well, he had a warrant out cause of missed tests, turned himself in, went in front of a judge in a orange jumpsuit and shackles trying to reason and tell the judge he didn't have a phone to contact nor money to do the tests, offered to be on a more frequent color rather than the 2 weeks jail time. Judge told him "well, couldnt you have used a pay phone, or mail a letter to your probation officer" he pauses five seconds and goes "well, I guess" then the judge says " There is no legitamate reason why you failed to contact your PO for over...4 months.. So I am going to give you the 15 days cause I don't think you would learn otherwise." His mom was crying, was it bad that I was smiling???? I was mad, and equally like " yeah, thats what you get for being stubborn 'have it your way' " Anyway, when he gets out, if you were me, would you welcome him with open arms and a present (his Bday is Vday) or be pissed off....what would you do?